Child Training Parenting



According to Wikipadia, Parenting or child rearing is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood.
Britannica also defined Parenting as the process of raising children and providing them with protection and care in order to ensure their healthy development into adulthood.
From the definitions of parentingg above, you will understand that it is all about initiating and giving a child a life that is worth living. That is, giving the child a platform that will make achievements of other necessities of life possible.
For this to happen, the parents must first know what to do and what is expected.
Becoming a successful parent is a goal and desire that must be deliberately pursued. Just like a farmer who wants a good harvest, such farmer must be deliberate in application of unique measures that will support the realisation of a good harvest.
The good news is, every parent, irrespective of status can raise exceptional child. This is true by looking at the example of the mother of Ben Carson. Ben Carson was sometime ago the best neoronsurgeon in the whole world. He was single-handedly raised my his mother who was an illiterate or semi-illiterate. She was the bread-winner of the family doing a menial job to raise two boys.
But one thing singled her out and separated her from other numerous parents that would have given up because of their circumstances. She did not allow her circumstance dictates the direction of her life, and that of their children. Listen, your life will follow the path of the goal you set for yourself. If you didn’t set any goal, anything can happen. I advice you set the goal of giving the best to your child(ren) today. Lack of money or education should not stand in the way of becoming an ideal parent.
The good news is, no matter how hard your parenting journey is today, if you do it right, you will enjoy it tomorrow. If done otherwise, you will suffer it tomorrow.
I am not suggesting that it will just be smooth. The journey of raising your children may not be smooth, but the ability to do what is necessary available if only you call and engage it. Remember that, “all things are possible to him that believes”, and where there is a will, there will surely be a way.
In order to help you to become an ideal parent, I have compiled these tips as things to take notice of, and engage. This is important, considering the fact that every child’s destiny counts. Apart from God, parents are the next factor that determines the experience of children in life. For instance, a child that is not trained on how to be respectful will keep meeting with rejections and unfriendly reactions from people without knowing the source of the problem.

Making parenting fun

Here are some tips for being an ideal parent you would like to be.

  1. Make efforts to be the best parent you can be. Nothing plus nothing is nothing. There are no perfect parents – mistakes are chances to learn. Always make moves to be better.
  2. Know that you are your child’s first role model. You are the leader, director and coordinator of your child enterprises. Therefore, take care of yourself so you have energy to care for your children. Also, learn as much as you can, network as many as possible to get assistance to help.
  3. Be strong and persevere. Don’t live through your kids – meet your needs through your own efforts. The time will come when your children will take care of you. Create a solid foundation for them for that to happen.
  4. Equip your children with skills and help them engage their talents. Support and give them the skills to solve their own problems – avoid being a “helicopter” parent. A parent that hovers around children and does not allow them use their initiatives because he doesn’t want them to make mistakes.
  5. Focus on specific area to be developed. Even though parenting should be goal-oriented and futuristic, you must pay attention on the problem before you. You have many years to raise your children – focus on one or two concerns at a time. For instance, when it is time for potty training, you need to pay attention and train your child appropriately. Then you can focus on another area that needs your attention.
  6. Pick and choose from your upbringing how you want to parent. Is it admirable? Improve or Maintain it. If not, look out for the type you want and apply it.
  7. Deliberately introduce and maintain joyful moments. Create family traditions to pass on memories and values.
  8. Learn and copy the style of those doing it right. Get on the same page for larger parenting decisions with those who share in your children’s care.
  9. Always be on the look out for helps when needed. Seek support when you need it.
  10. Don’t be too serious about it. Maintain a sense of humor. Enjoy the process with your children. Let the gains ahead motivate you and consider the tasks as pleasurable.

All parents are making the best decisions they can about their children’s needs, given their past experiences, the information they have, and the circumstances they face.

There are no perfect parents and often when parents do strive for perfection, they become exhausted and can feel inadequate.

Parents and their children are better off when moms and dads:

take care of themselves,
give themselves credit for all the good things they are doing,
have people in their lives who will offer them support and appreciation for their efforts.
Parenting is the most important job that any of us ever have: raising children to become responsible, caring, compassionate, and resilient. It is also one of the most challenging and frustrating. Parents need and deserve support and information to help them do the best they can in this critical task.


Coronavirus And Tips For Children


Children worry more when they are kept in the dark about issues that also concern them.

By Felix Ogboko

The news of the corona-virus COVID-19 is everywhere, from all the television stations, the front page of all the papers to the playground at school. Many parents are wondering how to bring up the epidemic in a way that will be reassuring and not make their children more worried than they already may be. Here is some advice I will give to you from the experts.

First of all, don’t be afraid to discuss the corona-virus. Most children will have already heard about the virus (Coronavirus) or seen people wearing face masks, so parents shouldn’t avoid talking about it. Not talking about something can actually make children worry more. It is better to let them have a clear idea of what is going on. Look at the conversation as an opportunity to convey the facts and set the emotional tone. It is your responsibility to take on the news and filter it, then break it down to your children in the way they will understand it. Your goal should be to help your children feel informed about corona-virus and get fact-based information that is likely more reassuring than whatever they’re hearing from their friends or on the news.
You must be developmentally appropriate. Tell it to your child according to the level of the child. Don’t volunteer too much information, as this may be overwhelming. Instead, try to answer your child’s questions. Do your best to answer honestly and clearly. It is okay if you can’t answer everything; being available to your child is what matters.


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Take your cues from your child. Invite your child to tell you anything they may have heard about the coronavirus, this will provide you with an understanding of where your child is in terms of the knowledge about coronavirus, and how they feel. Give them ample opportunity to ask questions. You want to be prepared to answer (but not prompt) questions. Your goal is to avoid encouraging frightening fantasies.
Deal with your own anxiety. In case you are feeling most anxious or panicked, that is not the time to talk to your children about what’s happening with the coronavirus. If you notice that you are feeling anxious, take some time to calm down before trying to have a conversation or answer your child’s questions. Anxiety most times is caused by the absence of the right information. You may need to go for more information before you talk to your child. With that, you will be very armed to deal with any question.
Be reassuring. Children are very egocentric, so hearing about the coronavirus on the news may be enough to make them seriously worry that they will catch it. It is helpful to reassure your child about how rare the coronavirus actually is (the flu is much more common) and that children actually seem to have milder symptoms.


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Focus on what you are doing to stay safe – like washing hands with soap frequently in flowing water staying away from sick and coughing person, covering your mouth when sneezing and also ensure others around do the same and stay safe. An important way to reassure children is to emphasize the safety precautions that you are taking. It should be noted that children feel empowered when they know what to do to keep themselves safe. And of course, feel the opposite when the reverse is the case. We know that the coronavirus is transmitted mostly by coughing and touching surfaces. The Centre for Disease Control recommends thoroughly washing your hands as the primary means of staying healthy. So remind children that they are taking care of themselves by washing their hands with soap and water for 20 seconds, or the length of two “Happy Birthday” songs when they come in from outside before they eat, and after blowing their nose, coughing, sneezing or using the bathroom. If children ask about face masks, explain that the health officials say they are not necessary for most people. If children see people wearing face masks, explain that those people are being extra cautious.
Stick to a routine. It is not good to be uncertain, so staying rooted in routines and predictability is going to be helpful right now. This is particularly important if your child’s school or daycare shuts down. Make sure you are taking care of the basics just like you would during a break or vacation. Structured days with regular mealtimes and bedtimes are an essential part of keeping children happy and healthy.
Keep talking meaningfully about coronavirus. Tell children that you will continue to keep them updated as you learn more. Let them know that the lines of communication are going to be open always. You may also want to say that even though we don’t have the answers to everything right now, know that once we know more, mom or dad will let you know, too.


How To Help Your Child Overcome Anger Spree

I woke up one morning to this very sad news. ” The Federal Capital Territory (FCT) High Court has sentenced Maryam Sanda to death by hanging for killing her husband, Bilyaminu Bello.

The case was on for some time before this judgement. She stabbed her husband to death out of anger. But the law must take its course. It won’t consider whatever the reasons may have been that necessitated the action – anger. The result is what is considered.

After the judgement, she started crying as the security officials whisked her away from the court premises. Obviously regretting her action.

Children can spring up anger for numerous reasons. But that must be curtailed early before it becomes a habit that will be difficult to stop.

It is natural for young children to express themselves physically when they don’t have enough words to say what they want or need. But there are some things you can do to ease their aggression.

Regrettably, there is nothing as anger-management classes for toddlers – and you will find that no day goes by without them expressing rage and frustration on a high scale.

Many times this kind of aggression is not deliberate – it is often your child’s way of protesting or affirming himself if he can’t find the right words to say how he is feeling or what he wants. Though anger is fine: we are all entitled to feel it if things don’t go our way. But anger is a feeling, while aggression is a behaviour – and your child has to learn that he can’t use it to solve his problems. You need to guide him in learning how to manage his emotions, control his impulses and express his anger with words. Please follow these tips;

1. Help him work out what he is feeling

After your child has calmed down from a tantrum, gently talk him through it. Ask him what was bothering him and why: “Did you think I wasn’t listening to you?” Dr Sal Severe, psychologist and author of How to Behave so Your Preschooler Will Too, points out that, like adults, young children have a variety of feelings: “They need to be taught how to label and manage those feelings, especially anger.”

In order to do this your child needs an emotion vocabulary – and you can provide that by asking questions such as, “Were you angry?”, “Did you feel sad?”, “Were you frightened?”

2. Teach him to empathise

Young children often pay little mind to the effect their behaviour might have on everyone else. If your child hits, bites or kicks, get down to his level and calmly ask him how he would feel if someone did that to him. Prompt him to give it some thought by saying things like, “If your sister kicked you like that it would hurt you and make you cry.”

3. Brainstorm solutions

If your child doesn’t have the verbal skills to assert himself in a non-violent way, then teach him. Kids love to pretend play and you can use that to teach them how to react to the things that tend to trigger their rage. Role-play a situation that would normally have your child going into meltdown and work out how he can resolve it without his fists and feet flying.

4. Practise what to say

Offer him verbal alternatives to his rage: “Maybe you could have said this. Why don’t you try that next time?” If trouble is brewing, remind him by saying, “Use your words, Jamiu” – and be sure to praise him when he does, perhaps via a Reward Chart with a happy face for every day he doesn’t hit or by saying something like, “I’m so happy you didn’t lose your temper when Biodun was playing with your toys.

5. Teach him how to calm down, not up

Dr Sal Severe recommends deep breathing as an easy technique young children can use to defuse anger and Supernanny has also used this method. He suggests showing your child what to do by placing your hand on your chest and getting him to do the same while taking in two deep breaths. The hand on the chest serves as a handy visual cue that you can use to remind your child to take a step back from what’s bothering him: just do it if you see him start to get frustrated.

6. Lay it on the line

Sometimes young children need it spelt out so they can see how their behaviour relates back to Mum and Dad pulling them up all the time. Your child reacts aggressively when you try to enforce rules and limits – so he gets told off. Explain to him in simple terms the connection between those two events: “Benson, being told off makes you cranky. But if you keep hitting and biting, I’m going to keep telling you off. If you stop doing it then I won’t tell you off.”

7. Unplug him

Children who see aggressive or violent behaviour played out on the TV screen or in computer games tend to be more aggressive when they play. “If your child is consistently aggressive, limit his exposure to it in the media,” advises Sal Severe. “If he does see it on TV, explain that hitting isn’t a nice way to act and doesn‘t solve problems. Reinforce the message by choosing storybooks and TV shows that promote kindness.”

8. Operate a zero-tolerance policy

Do not tolerate aggressive behaviour at all, in any way, shape or form. As with every other aspect of parenting, consistency is key. The only way to stop your child from being aggressive is to make a House Rule that aggression is not acceptable.

9. Don’t smack him

If you’re in the habit of smacking your child in the heat of the moment, you need to express your own frustration more constructively. “Smacking in anger teaches children to strike out when they’re angry,” says Sal Severe. “Seeing that you don’t exercise self-control when you’re angry makes them think they don’t have to either.”

10. Manage your own anger

If you go off like a rocket at the slightest thing, it’s likely your child will too. “Your children learn to manage their anger by watching the way you manage your own,” cautions Dr Sal Severe. “It’s a sobering thought, but anger habits are learned.”

The irony is that an aggressive child can often be a major trigger for parents to explode, but try not to let your own anger build up. “Deal with it as soon as possible, using a calm voice to express how you feel rather than yelling,” says Sal Severe. “It’ll have way more impact. And just as you expect your child to apologise for bad behaviour, get into the habit of apologising to him if you lose your temper inappropriately.”

If your child’s aggressive behaviour is disrupting your home and putting family members or others at risk, and he reacts explosively to even the mildest discipline techniques, speak to your GP or Health Visitor. She may be able to refer you to a child psychologist or counsellor who can teach you new ways of interacting with your child that will help you manage his anger more effectively.